No sharing covers? Yesss.
Sure, you love your S.O. to the moon and back, etc., etc. But do you find yourself wishing you could just starfish out on your bed, covers all to yourself, totally solo most nights?
If so, you’re in good company: According to an annual survey from alarm clock app Sleep Cycle, 41 percent of Americans prefer sleeping solo to sleeping with a partner. Sleep Cycle attributes this to snoring: 52 percent of people report that their partners’ snoring is loud enough to wake them up, and 30 percent say it’s loud enough to drive them onto the couch or into another room.Snoring isn’t the only point of contention, though. Many people are very peculiar about sleeping environments: Some require about a dozen blankets to snooze comfortably; some people insist on lying like a giant X in the middle of the mattress; some people need noise machines, others need night lights. Some people sleep cold (the Sleep Foundation recommends a bedroom temperature between 60 and 67 degrees Fahrenheit) while others sleep hot.Judging from Sleep Cycle’s survey, very few couples agree on these things. Apparently, the question of temperature and darkness are the easiest elements to compromise on, but only 31 percent of people agree on whether or not sleeping is better with sound; 28 percent of people see eye to eye on what the correct number of pillows is; and 27 percent of people prefer the same number of blankets as their partners. Fewer—23 percent—agree on bedtimeMany couples notice one another’s alarm clocks go off in the morning, but a reported 70 percent aren’t bothered by this, probably because waking up and realizing you can go back to sleep is among the best feelings in existence.
All of that said, ironically, the most effective ingredient for a good night’s sleep seems to be sex: 68 percent of respondents said they sleep better after having sex. Truly, sex hormones do make for the best sleep environment of all, because orgasm cues the release of prolactin, a hormone that promotes relaxed, snoozy feelings. It also amps up oxytocin, the so-called feel good hormone, which helps you unwind from the day’s stress. For women specifically, sex elevates estrogen, which in turn deepens slumber.
In other words, that old saying “you can’t live with em, you can’t live without em” has never rang more true. But if sex isn’t enough of a remedy, try these fixes to common partner sleep problems.